Talking About Healthy Relationships with 2SLGBTQ+ Youth

Video Vignettes & Discussion Guide

About This Resource

Taking Pride is a healthy relationships curriculum for 2SLGBTQ+ youth developed by the Stigma and Resilience Among Vulnerable Youth Centre (SARAVYC) at the University of British Columbia in collaboration with the McCreary Centre Society. The project was funded by the Public Health Agency of Canada.

As part of this curriculum, we scripted and commissioned six video vignettes which portray a number of scenarios 2SLGBTQ+ youth may encounter in relationships. This teaching manual resource is intended to accompany these videos as a stand-alone discussion guide; it is not the full training manual for the Taking Pride curriculum. Rather, we are publishing these discussion guides with the video vignettes so that other educators can incorporate these scenarios into their own trainings, workshops, and discussions.

The videos focus on 2SLGBTQ+ relationships, however, the scenarios are broadly applicable to youth of diverse identities and could be used for a similarly broad age range of 14 to 25.

What’s Included:

For each vignette discussion you will find a description of the video, suggestions for use, topics covered, and keywords associated with the video. Trigger warnings will be listed before each video introduction. This is to help you see which videos will be of use to you depending on your current training and facilitation needs.

You will also find access-minded descriptions and transcripts of each video to prioritize accessibility. These transcripts and descriptions can be used to increase comprehension and ensure access for those with visual, aural, cognitive, or other disabilities.

Video 1: Boundaries

Run time: 1:53

Pause for discussion: 1:10

Trigger warnings: Forced outing, romantic relationship conflict, food


The following video features a dating scenario that can help model giving and asking for consent in everyday moments. Our couple, Janine (left) and Erika (right), represents two young femme-presenting people navigating social media, family, and public identity. Erika takes a selfie as Janine kisses her cheek, an intimate, happy moment. Then, while Janine returns to their previous conversation on the boba tea they both have, Erika posts the photograph to social media. Unfortunately, as we discover, Janine is not out to her parents, and her aunt sees the photograph, calling Janine immediately to discuss it.

Erika kisses Janine's cheek while Janine takes a selfie


The video pauses here, allowing for further discussion of the scenario where you may ask questions like:

  • What went wrong?
  • What could Erika have done differently?
  • What kind of consent did she need here? 

It could be worthwhile to ask participants to model how they would ask for this kind of consent or to describe how they themselves would give consent if they were Janine. 

  • How would they like to be asked for consent? 
  • What would their communication needs be here? 

You may also want to be prepared if the discussion moves to questions of how Erika and Janine might resolve this. 

  • What does apology look like here? 
  • What is a healthy, constructive way of addressing the harm and complications Erika’s actions have created for Janine?

A Different Ending

After discussion, you can resume the video to watch as a different ending plays out between Janine and Erika. Here, Erika still takes the selfie, documenting the happy moment together, but instead pauses to ask Janine if posting the photo is okay. Janine responds by reminding Erika she hasn’t had “that conversation” with her parents yet (i.e. her parents do not know she is queer), and Erika tucks her phone away, affirming Janine and continuing their time together playfully, diffusing any lingering tension with laughter and affection.

This can then prompt questions of other scenarios that require consent, practicing asking for and giving consent as Janine and Erika model or navigating social media safety in relationships that protect partners. While the video focuses on consent, broader topics of social media safety, “coming out,” and comfort levels with public affection may also be important conversations this video can supplement.

Topics Covered:

Consent (including outside of sexual intimacy), youth and social media, coming out, public identity, family and sexual identity, romance, emotional intimacy, public relationships


Instagram, social media, consent, relationships, family, coming out

Video 2: Rejection & Communication Styles

Run time: 2:20

Pause for discussion: 1:28

Trigger warnings: Biphobia, microaggressions against queer characters


In this video, we meet Greg and Julie as Greg helps Julie move into a new apartment. As they finish, Julie asks Greg if he would like to stay for some take out, but Greg says he ought to be going given his parking is about to expire. As he goes to leave, Julie leans in to kiss him, which Greg responds to with alarm and backs away from her. This rejection stings for Julie who references Greg’s bisexuality, calling him a “confused guy who just likes to mess with people,” a common microaggression leveled against bisexual people.


Here, the video pauses to allow for discussion. Topics that might be discussed here include passive aggressive communication and consent. 

  • What does passive aggressive communication look like? 
  • Why is it harmful? 
  • What work does it do here to create conflict? 

It may also be useful here to discuss the topic of flirting. Flirting is often confusing, especially at a young age, but even well into adulthood. 

  • How do we understand flirting? 
Greg, after finishing helping Julie move, smiles while Julie smiles over her shoulder at him.

In asking probing questions about flirting using this video, you may find an interesting conversation opens up about very different expectations of what amounts to flirting. In parsing what amounts to flirting, perhaps even identifying what misunderstandings occur in the video regarding flirting, conversations about consent, boundaries, and clear communication can follow.

It is worth noting that the anti-bisexual sentiments depicted in this video can be painful for multi-gender attracted people. When using this video, it would be valuable to pause and unpack Julie’s comments, opening space for bisexual, pansexual, and other multi-gender attracted people to speak to their experiences like the one depicted between Julie and Greg.

Julie looks down off camera like she is embarrassed or uncomfortable.

A Different Ending

As the video resumes, we see Julie again lean in to kiss Greg, but the conversation resolves with Greg relating to Julie, saying he’s been in her situation before. Julie says she misread Greg’s signals, and he admits he can “seem kinda flirty.”

Participants may have mixed feelings about this ending, given it places the burden of explanation on Greg, the person establishing a boundary and refusing consent. 

  • How could we reduce this burden for Greg?
  • What could Julie do or say that would allow Greg to refuse without explanation?

In this resolved ending, it may be worthwhile to talk about handling feelings of rejection. 

  • How do we respond to rejection, be it romantic, scholastic, professional, or other kinds of rejection? 
  • How do we honor the pain or embarrassment of rejection without resorting to microaggressions (as Julie did in the first segment), despair, or even violence? 
  • Also, what ways can we support our friends and community members who are experiencing rejection?

Topics Covered:

Communication styles, passive aggression, flirting and relationships, responding to romantic rejection, biphobia, microaggressions against queer people


Biphobia, microaggressions, flirting, dating, communication, rejection

Video 3: On Asking For & Giving Consent

Run time: 2:07

Pause for discussion: 1:09

Trigger warnings: Slight reference to sex

Brad listens to Greg after asking if he wanted Brad to come upstairs.


The video opens with Greg and Brad returning from a date. They stop together in front of the gate to Greg’s home and discuss briefly how terrible the movie was they just watched. The chemistry between them is obvious, and both lean in for a kiss. Brad lets out a breath, obviously affected by it, and then suggests the night doesn’t have to end, pointing up at Greg’s place. Greg understands Brad is insinuating they could have sex, but Greg tells Brad he simply isn’t feeling up for it tonight. Brad then tries to get an explanation as to why Greg was okay having sex on their last date but not this one. Does Greg have to work early? What’s going on? But Greg simply says he doesn’t want to.

Since Brad doesn’t feel like he got a satisfactory explanation from Greg, Brad says Greg doesn’t need to bother texting him again because it’s obvious Greg isn’t that into Brad. With that, Brad storms off, and Greg is left standing confused and at a loss in front of his home.


As the video pauses and we all take a deep breath after watching Greg and Brad’s fight, the conversation here can open to a number of topics. Consent is an obvious starting point. 

  • How do we ask for and give consent? (This can refer back to conversations you may have had with Video 1 with Janine and Erika). 
  • How do we respond to people’s consent? 

It may be useful to develop scripts together in terms of precise ways we can feel empowered to ask for consent, but also what amounts to clear and unequivocal consent from others*.  This can lead to discussions on how to feel empowered being explicit in asking for/giving consent to avoid misunderstandings. It is also valuable to pause to discuss how prior consent does not equate to future consent.

Other topics this video can supplement include responding to rejection, much like the video featuring Greg and Julia (Video 2). 

  • How do we deal with our feelings of rejection so that we don’t lash out at others and can respect others’ boundary-setting? 
  • How do we think about our own values that inform our boundaries so that we can feel empowered to say “no” as Greg did? 

Asking participants if they would have felt safe or empowered enough to say “no” can help establish the diverse needs folks have in communicating their consent. Knowing what makes others feel safe to refuse can inform how we ensure we aren’t being coercive, too.

  • How could Greg and Brad communicate so that both felt validated? 
  • How can Brad adjust his communication to respect Greg’s boundary-setting? 
  • What kinds of boundaries ought the pair establish together so that conversations like this can be less heated? 

A Different Ending

The video resumes with Greg and Brad sharing a kiss, and Brad again asks if he could “come up” to Greg’s place, insinuating they could have sex. Greg again refuses, but this time Brad doesn’t probe him, trying to find a justification for Greg’s refusal. Instead, Brad jokes “it’s because of the movie, isn’t it?” before telling Greg “it’s cool,” and Brad hopes to see him over the weekend. The pair kiss again, and Brad departs with much less fuss than before.

Conversations about consent can feel awkward, especially given how much our culture encourages us to speak in euphemisms about sex. While this is a serious topic, Brad’s response may be a way of talking about the role of humor and laughter in asking for and giving consent.

Greg smiles while speaking to Brad outside his home.

Here, you may return to any of the above conversations to see if the alternate ending resolved some of the issues participants discussed or if there are still lingering questions. Are there other scenarios participants can think of where we can practice understanding a “no” not as a personal attack but a person respecting their own boundaries and values?

Topics Covered:

Consent (sexual), responding to romantic rejection, conflict resolution, communication styles, boundary setting, personal values, sex and dating


Consent, sexual consent, rejection, conflict, communication, boundaries, values


*Personal note from the author: As a facilitator myself, I have found the exercise of providing precise phrasing for asking for/giving consent to be extremely beneficial to youth I’ve worked with, but also neurodivergent people of all ages. Establishing these conventions clearly for neurodivergent people, in my personal experience, has been crucial to developing safe and robust consent practices, especially given how vulnerable neurodivergent and disabled people generally are to sexual assault and exploitation. Having a script for these situations can significantly reduce pressure to communicate clearly.

Video 4: Compromise

This module is currently under review with our Two Spirit Indigenous Advisory. We will launch this module soon!

Video 5: Privacy

Run time: 2:48

Pause for discussion: 1:50

Trigger warnings: Invasion of privacy, conflict


We are once again with Brad and Greg who are trying to find something to watch on TV. As Brad suggests titles, Greg’s phone continues to buzz with texts from “this guy Jeff, from work.” Brad asks about it after Greg laughs at a few texts before returning to scrolling. Greg gets another text, but his phone does not recognize his face, so he inputs his passcode. Brad leans over Greg’s shoulder to watch him input his passcode, memorizing it. Afterward, Greg says he is going to use the washroom, leaving his phone behind. Brad decides to check Greg’s phone, inputting the passcode, but Greg returns to the room having forgotten something to find Brad scrolling or “snooping” through is phone. This angers Greg who asks if Brad was going through his text messages. The vignette ends with Greg grabbing his phone back, visibly upset, and Brad at a loss for words.


Brad has invaded Greg’s privacy in going through his phone. This, however, is an often unspoken boundary in social situations and relationships. 

  • What unspoken boundaries do people have that we can anticipate when interacting with others? 
  • Why is going through someone’s phone such a serious thing? 
  • Are there boundaries that we do not need to explicitly state but should assume and respect automatically with others?
Greg and Brad sit on the sofa browsing the TV while Greg texts on his red phone.

The discussion can also turn to why browsing someone’s direct messages, texts, or private social media without consent is problematic. 

  • What expectations does such lack of privacy set up in relationships? 
  • Why is it important to have privacy in romantic relationships? 
  • What is the difference between secrecy and privacy? 
  • What kind of intimacy can we ask of one another in relationships?
  • Is “snooping” every appropriate?
  • What does the desire to “snoop” reveal about our feelings for a person?
  • What can we do instead of snooping?

There may also be an opportunity to discuss quality time, the use of our phones, and the role social technology plays in our intimate relationships.

Greg walks in on Brad going through is phone.

A Different Ending

The alternate ending is short and sweet because both Brad and Greg make different decisions. Brad, after Greg has gotten a few messages from “Jeff from work,” asks Greg to put his phone away so they can spend time “just the two of us.” Greg agrees, apologizing for being distracted, and puts his phone away. This time when Greg gets up to use the washroom, leaving his phone behind, Brad does not snoop. The video closes with Brad sighing, saying, “He really needs to get Disney+.”

Topics Covered:

Privacy, social technology, quality time, snooping, boundary setting, unspoken boundaries and social norms in relationships


Privacy, text messages, dating, relationships, boundaries, snooping

Video 6: Confrontation

Run time: 1:13

Trigger warnings: biphobia, abusive language, manipulation


This video features only one vignette with no alternate ending. We return to Julia and Greg as Greg FaceTimes Julia, obviously upset. When Julia picks up, Greg confronts her about sending Brad (his presumed partner) direct messages and texts encouraging Brad to break up with Greg. Julia denies it, but then a screenshot appears on the screen showing Julia’s texts to Brad. The messages contain several accusations that Greg is “scamming” Brad. The messages continue, accusing Greg of not being “even really gay” (which he isn’t—Greg is bisexual), leading Brad on to make Julia jealous, and perpetuating stereotypes of bisexual people as simply “confused.”

Julia continues to deny the messages are real, accusing Brad of using photoshop to alter or create the screenshot. While Julia never admits to sending the messages, Greg tells her that if she is going to act this way, they cannot be friends. With that, Julia and Greg both hang up.

If you wish to return to the screenshotted messages, they appear at 00:41.


This video may be triggering and difficult for participants. Manipulation like this is something that happens often in relationships and can be difficult to recognize and respond to. The video, however, can be used to empower participants to set boundaries and to refuse to engage with certain people in their lives. While sometimes this may feel drastic, especially when we feel overwhelmed with the possible social consequences, removing people from our lives can be a healthy thing that gives us freedom to enjoy our lives.

A screenshot of Julie and Greg facetiming.
A screenshot of text messages from Julie that read: J: Hey you know you're totally being scammed by greg right? Brad: Excuse me? J: He's not even really gay he doesn't know what he is The only reason he's with you is to make me jealous He's so messed up and he just screws with people for fun you should dump him while you still can

Difficult decisions like this can be intimidating, but Greg offers a script of how to set a boundary. It may be useful to ask participants to brainstorm what they would say if they needed to cut someone out of their lives. Discuss how social pressure and stigma might keep us from making decisions that benefit us like this. 

  • What can we do to support people who make these difficult decisions? 
  • How could Brad, perhaps, be there for Greg after this?

It may be useful, too, to discuss how we could respond when we are called out or in for our own wrongdoing. 

  • What does apology look like? 
  • How can we respect a person’s boundary and work to better ourselves? 
  • How do we take care of ourselves as we try to grow from our mistakes? 
  • What are we pressured into doing that do not reflect our values? 
  • How can we stick to those values? 

Topics Covered:

Biphobia, emotional manipulation, relationship interference and jealousy, boundary setting and conflict, harassment


Boundaries, harassment, conflict, biphobia, discrimination, jealousy

Credits & Copyright


Anthony Curtis as Greg

Sarah Latham as Erika

Brittania McCauley as Janine

Sydney Powers as Julia

Wyatt Sterling as Brad

Shooting & Production

Christopher Young, VLY Films


Stephanie Hall

Module author

Hannah Sullivan Facknitz


Elizabeth Saewyc, Ph.D., RN, FSAHM, FCAHS, FAAN
Monica Rana, Ph.D.
Video 4:
SARAVYC Indigenous Two-Spirit Advisory


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